When I asked her what she would consider herself. “French, of course” she replied (with a bit of a “what a silly question” look). She has never lived in France. All her friends are French (apart from one neighbour she sometimes plays with). Can she speak Dutch? “emmm... yes…a little but… “
However, just suppose you expect to be based here for a longer period of time, and your children are young. Sending your child to a Dutch school may well have its advantages. Your child picks up an extra language; Dutch. Studies show that children pick up new languages quickly and the more languages they have as children the easier it is to pick up further languages later on in life. Your children get the opportunity to be truly multicultural, being immersed in the Dutch culture at school and with school friends whilst being exposed to you and your partner’s culture(s) at home. You get to meet other parents, mingle with the locals, learn about the Dutch culture and you may even pick up a few words of the language yourself. If you do move overseas later will the curriculum really be that different as to confuse the child? I am no expert but I can’t imagine mathematics in the Netherlands being so different from mathematics in the US, France or China. Oh yes, and the schools here are free…
I wonder what will happen to Monique when she is older if she goes abroad to study or work. How do you explain that you are French but have never lived in France, or that you were born in, and spent your whole life in the Netherlands but can’t speak Dutch…